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{Ep. 17} When did you know what you wanted to do?

Nov 16, 2022
When did you know what you wanted to do?




When did you know what you wanted to do?

That is the question my son asked me and so I recorded an episode about that conversation.

Here's how our conversation went...

It can be really scary to think about.

There's a pressure to know. I hear it as a pressure to know who we are. To know why we are here. There's even the feeling of fear of getting it wrong and failing. 

I shared with him about how I remember the first time someone asked me what I wanted out of life and why I thought I was here.

I was about 11 years old and it was a librarian!

I had shown an interest in the personal development section of the library and we proceeded to have an amazing conversation about how we get to decide who we are in life.

So today I'm reminded of that wonderful conversation and feel very consciously connected to my intentions as I shared my thoughts with my son.

I saw that he was relieved.

I had just told him he gets to decide who he is going to be. I told him it's wonderful that he spends time thinking about who he is. Wondering about knowing what you want to do in life is special and important work. I encouraged him to explore what the answers may be for him. I told him it's ok not to know exactly... just follow the clues

He was smiling and feeling relieved. 

I told him there is no race and no penalty for getting it wrong.

Experiment and trying things to help yourself figure out what you like to do.

The real penalty is denying yourself that freedom and joy when you choose to focus on the wrong things. No-one gets to tell you who you are. They can offer their observations, suggestions and feedback... they cannot tell you who you are. They can not possibly know! 

I shared that I feel scared to 'do the thing' all the time. Sometimes 'the thing' is just to be myself. I told him I’m 46 and just starting to really go for it.

It's a brave, conscious act to love yourself and give yourself permission to live your life committed to becoming your best self!

The world needs you to be you fully, that's when your talents, strengths and gifts really shine. From that authentic place is where you will make the biggest difference in this world

Today's Goal: To keep being me. Keep being curious and keep following the clues.

I hope you like my share about my conversation with my son. I left him with this thought and I hope you'll engage in a similar conversation with your people!

Take a moment and think about what being you means to you... if something flashes in your mind... go do that thing... explore that idea... keep becoming!

XO, Lucy

In this episode you'll learn .. 

  •  Lucy reflects on a conversation with her son about when she knew what she wanted to be.
  • She says that she knew when she was 12 years old that she was fascinated with how people discover who they are, their gifts, talents, and skills.
  • She credits her love for learning to the librarians who helped her find new books in different sections.
  • She tells her son that the key to knowing what you want to do is to stay curious and to know yourself.
  • She encourages her son to reflect on what he already knows about himself and his interests, which can be an empowering exercise.
  • She believes that people defer knowing themselves and their interests by thinking that it will happen once they acquire more education or reach a certain place in their learning.
  • She encourages people, especially young people, to stay curious and explore the world to gain experiences that will help them figure out what they want to do.
  • She thinks that people should encourage young people to be lifelong learners and keep evolving to develop their resiliency and ability to adapt.
  • She believes that knowing oneself is an ongoing process of self-discovery and that themes will emerge that are true about oneself.
  • She says that there are new things that will emerge in a person's life that they did not see coming when they were younger, but the general themes and curiosities will remain the same.
  • She encourages people to share their stories with young people

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In the Activate Now Podcast, Lucy takes you into her world as she gets curious about what it means to be fully activated in your life. Every episode is packed with interesting ideas, new strategies, relatable stories, practical guidance and the tools and encouragement you need to activate yourself into a better life.
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